Hi. I’m just writing this post to talk quickly about some of the things you should never say to your ex if you want to get back together with them.
These are common things that people often say to their ex in the wake of their breakup that they probably should not have said and will regret down the road if they want to get back together with their ex.
The first thing you definately do not want to say to your ex after your breakup is any sort of begging or pleading such as, “Please give me another try,” or, “I promise I’ll change if you’ll just give me another chance.”
First of all, this is going to do nothing to change your ex’s mind. They’ve made up their mind and your groveling and begging is just going to make you seem desperate and pretty pathetic, quite frankly.
Even though, at the time, it may have have been a very logical, seeming thing to do, it’s definitely not something you want to say. No begging or pleading after a breakup if you want to get back together.
Second thing you don’t want to say is things like, “I miss you,” and, “I still love you.”
Again, those may be things may be completely true.
You may still love them and you may miss them like crazy but you don’t want to tell your ex that right now. You need them to be guessing. You need to have some mystery. You definately don’t seem desperate or heart broken in the eyes of your ex.
That’s not going to help you get them back. Don’t say “I miss you” and don’t say “I still love you” until the time is right. Believe me, the time is not right for a long time after the breakup until you’ve made some real progress towards getting back together.
Third thing you don’t want to say and this ties into the whole desperation thing. You don’t want to say things like, “I’m so heartbroken,” and, “I’m so depressed,” and, “I can’t live without you.”
Things that give off a very clear message of being distraught, be heartbroken, being depressed.
You want your ex to think that sure, you’re affected by the breakup. You cared about them. You wanted to be in this relationship but you’re going to be fine.
You want your ex to think you’re going to move and that you don’t need them in order to have a happy, successful life. Saying things like, “I’m so heartbroken,” “I’m so depressed,” and all those sorts of things, it’s going to make you seem desperate. It’s not going to help you get them back, so don’t say that.
Another thing you don’t want to say to your ex after the breakup is things like, “I hate you,” or, “You treated me so badly,” “You aren’t right for me anyway.”
You definitely don’t want to say any of those angry, hateful things to your ex. It’s only going to cause conflict. It’s going to reinforce their decision to break up with you because you’re saying all these mean things in the wake of a breakup.
Even if there was a lot of conflict, a lot of drama that surrounded your breakup, you still don’t want to show anger. You don’t want your ex to think that you’re angry at them.
You can be upset. That’s natural but you don’t want your ex to think that you’re angry. Don’t say anything that will give that impression.
Finally, the last thing you don’t want to say is things like, “Never talk to me again.”
That’s the kind of thing you’ll say at the heat of the moment but you’ll end up regretting later because oftentimes, your ex will take that seriously, especially if your breakup was clean and your relationship was very serious.
They’ll value your feelings. They won’t want to hurt you. If you say something like, “Never talk to me again,” they’ll probably, at least for a certain period of time, take you up on that.
If you do want your ex back, you don’t want to tell them things such as, “Never talk to me again,” because it’s certainly not going to help your cause.
If you’ve already made some of these mistakes and I’m sure some of you out there are reading and thinking, “Oh, crap. I’ve already done 2 of these things,” or whatever, don’t worry, don’t panic. Just go over to The Ex Factor Guide website and watch the free video on there. You’ll learn a few new things.